Bekah Walters

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The Magnolia Story Review: Are You Thriving or Just Surviving

You guys! I recently finished reading The Magnolia Story by Chip and Joanna Gaines. I about fell over when I saw the book sitting on the newly released table at my library. I could not believe it wasn’t checked out or on a waiting list so I scooped it right up.

The Book Review

Adam and I love watching the show Fixer Upper on HGTV. The book reminds me of the banter back and forth between the Gaines couple. Jo tells most of their love story, their business beginnings and how they got to where they are today and then Chip jumps in with his perspective on it and side stories. As I read the book, I just pictured those two sitting down with me telling me their story in their own words.

The book is a quick read, and there is quite a bit of information I didn’t know about them. It was such an interesting peek inside of their lives and you get the same genuine connection and authenticity on every single episode of Fixer Upper.

Most Thought Provoking Topic:
Are you thriving or just surviving?

One of the topics Jo talks about is going through a phase where she felt like she was “just surviving” but she didn’t want that for herself or her family. She wanted to thrive especially during a tough financial season. She didn’t want to look back on that time as being unhappy and she choose to flip a switch right then and there to choose happiness even in the difficult times.

“I always thought that the ‘thriving’ would come when everything was perfect, and what I learned is that it’s actually down in the mess that things get good.”

She goes on to talk about learning to thrive in the pain and in the low points because if you can’t find a way to do that then you’ll never be happy.

“If you can’t find happiness in the ugliness, you’re not going to find it in the beauty, either.”

This got me thinking about my own life. Am I thriving right where I am? It is so important to acknowledge the little things in life. I find this easier to do when I focus on being content in my present situation, finding something to be grateful for every single day, and showing kindness to others.

Are you just surviving in this season of life or are you choosing to thrive regardless of your current situation? You can choose to change your outlook on life every day – every moment.

Favorite Quotes from The Magnolia Story

“It’s hard to describe the feeling that comes with starting your own business. It really is so much work in the beginning that you lose yourself in it. You lose your sense of time, and you can’t believe how quickly the days go by because there’s no time to focus on much of anything else.”

“I wonder sometimes if we know ourselves a lot better than we think we do when we’re children. We get into our teen years and college years, and so many of us let others redefine who we are, or we get lost along the way and have no idea what we really want to do with our lives.”

“Even locked doors can be unlocked in time.”

“Sometimes worrying about something is much worse than the actual thing you’re worrying about. So really, what’s the point in worrying?” – Chip

“And if we’d given up, if we’d walked away, if we’d crumbled when we were at our lowest, we never would have made it around the corner to see all of the blessings that were about to come due.”

“What am I going for in life?”

“I am learning that getting our intentions right simplifies our decisions in life and changes our perspective. And in the end, what it’s all about is thankfulness and contentment.”

Let me know in the comments below if you’ve read the book. If so, what was the most interesting quote or topic to you? If not, I hope you add this book to your reading list!

Choose to thrive, starting today!

Bekah Walters Blog: 2017 Expectations

My Christmas of 2016 was full of family visits and friends and neighbors getting together. I hope you were surrounded by all the ones you love as well. It’s been a little quiet on the blog, but get ready for that to change! I’ll dive into this year’s blog expectations.
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26 Things to Do at 26

I turned 26 years old this past Thursday and it got me thinking of things I would like to do in the next year. This list is in no particular order.

What would you like to do in the next year? |
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How I Take Care of Myself

Today’s prompt: How do you de-stress/take care of yourself?

For me, taking care of myself means drinking a lot of water throughout each day, trying to eat well, and getting the adequate amount of sleep most nights.
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The Read, The Reading, & The Want to Read Book List

Today’s prompt: Three books! One you just read, one you’re currently reading, and one you want to read.

Recently Read: Make it Happen

Surrender Your Fear. Take the Leap. Live On Purpose.
By Lara Casey

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Progress Over Perfection

I wouldn’t say I am a perfectionist, but others may describe me as that. I like everything to have a place and be in it. I love to organize and keep it that way. I am noticing that I have a tendency to lean towards an all-or-nothing type attitude–striving for perfection and not focusing on progress.

A couple quick examples:

  • I didn’t workout following the plan, so I must start over next week.
  • I didn’t follow the cleaning schedule so I should catch up on ALL of it this weekend.
  • I didn’t post my blog about second shooting so I shouldn’t post anything at all.
  • I didn’t work on any of my DIY projects so I shouldn’t even pull out my craft box.

The all-or-nothing attitude considers only a black and white perspective—either you do it and do it well or don’t do it at all. This is where I’m stuck and, friend, if you are too then I have a few words for the both of us.

Give yourself grace

You don’t have to do it all and be everything to everyone. You’ve heard the expression and seen it on coffee mugs: You can do anything but you can’t do everything. It is so true. We try so hard and spread ourselves so thin—maybe lower the expectations you have on yourself even just a bit. At the least, re-evaluate your priorities.

Focus on your progress

Instead of focusing on all the items on your to-do list that you haven’t crossed off yet, focus on the small things that you did accomplish.

  • I didn’t workout everyday this week, but I did workout 3 days and that is more than last week.
  • I didn’t follow the cleaning schedule, but I did do 2 loads of laundry and cleaned the bathrooms.
  • I didn’t post my blog about second shooting, but I am going to post this one.
  • I didn’t work on my DIY projects, but I did buy all the materials last night.

Perfection is an illusion

You are not perfect and neither am I or anyone else. Did you know that when the Amish make a quilt, they actually make sure there is a flaw in it because nothing is perfect except Jesus? Talk about taking the pressure off when creating a beautiful masterpiece. You and I should do the same.

Instead of aiming for perfection, which is unobtainable and relative, we should look at our progress.

Am I better today than I was yesterday?

Am I moving forward (even slowly) and not backwards?

Let’s take the pressure off others and ourselves by focusing on progress over perfection.

The purpose of starting this blog

Who is this blog for?

Well, this blog is for you and it’s for me. It is for me to journal my lifestyle as a newly married, twenty-five-year-old. I want this space to be about my faith journey, building an online community, and various interests.

At the same time, this blog is for you, the reader, to be inspired, to learn something new, or find your own creative outlet.

Mission #1:
To be an inspiration to those who do not think they are creative and to those who are creative souls.

What types of posts will you find here?

There will be quite the array of topics such as those mentioned previously along with cooking, baking, sewing, crafting, finances, reading, and photography. I have a lot of ideas for what I would like this blog to encompass, but I’m not exactly sure what direction it will take.

As I create more content and figure out what I like to write about and what you would like to read about, there will be a more defined purpose.

Mission #2:
To be relatable to the average twenty-something girl who is just trying to figure out how to live a purposeful life and be creative within it.

I do not have a specific vision for this blog yet, but I hope to find my niche or my voice in the world of blogging. I have to start somewhere and saying someday isn’t going to get me there.

So… I am starting this blog.

I have listened to quite a few bloggers say that in the beginning their posts were poorly written and they ask themselves what were they thinking. I hope I can look back one day and see the progress I’ve made.

Mission #3:
To provide answers for others to questions that I have asked myself.

This vision will develop over time, and I am so excited to see how this little idea grows and takes shape.

What do you look for in a blog? What keeps you coming back to the same blog time and time again?

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